<\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nUneori limita este at\u00e2t de \u0219tears\u0103 \u00eenc\u00e2t e greu de \u00een\u021beles unde se termin\u0103 compromisul \u0219i \u00eencepe umilin\u021ba. Am preg\u0103tit pentru voi un tabel care va ajuta s\u0103 v\u0103 verifica\u021bi sentimentele.<\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\nSitua\u021bie<\/th>\n Rela\u021bii s\u0103n\u0103toase (Munc\u0103)<\/th>\n Rela\u021bii toxice (Fugi!)<\/th>\n<\/tr>\n<\/thead>\n \n\nConflict<\/strong><\/td>\nDiscuta\u021bi problema, c\u0103uta\u021bi solu\u021bii, nu trece\u021bi la personalit\u0103\u021bi.<\/td>\n Te jignesc, url\u0103, te ignor\u0103 cu zilele („jocul t\u0103cerii”), te \u00eenvinov\u0103\u021besc de toate.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n \nGelozie<\/strong><\/td>\nPartenerul poate vorbi despre sentimentele sale, dar are \u00eencredere \u00een tine \u0219i nu te controleaz\u0103.<\/td>\n Verificarea telefonului, cerin\u021ba de a raporta fiecare minut, interdic\u021bia de a comunica cu colegii.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n \nDezvoltare<\/strong><\/td>\nE\u0219ti sus\u021binut\u0103 \u00een noile \u00eenceputuri, se bucur\u0103 de succese.<\/td>\n E\u0219ti ridiculizat\u0103, realiz\u0103rile sunt devalorizate („Doar ai avut noroc”), cre\u0219terea ta este sabotat\u0103.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n \nTimp \u00eempreun\u0103<\/strong><\/td>\nPetrece\u021bi timpul \u00eempreun\u0103 cu pl\u0103cere, dar ave\u021bi spa\u021biu personal.<\/td>\n Cer 100% din timpul t\u0103u, se sup\u0103r\u0103 pe dorin\u021ba de a fi singur\u0103.<\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<\/figure>\n\n\n\n<\/span>De ce ne este fric\u0103 s\u0103 plec\u0103m?<\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nAceasta este cea mai dureroas\u0103 \u00eentrebare. Deseori femeile r\u0103m\u00e2n ani de zile pentru c\u0103 au investit prea mult \u00een rela\u021bie. Aceasta se nume\u0219te „efectul costurilor irecuperabile”. Ne pare r\u0103u de anii pierdu\u021bi, de bunurile comune, de planurile de viitor. Ne \u00eendr\u0103gostim nu de omul real, ci de poten\u021bialul<\/em> s\u0103u. „Va fi un tat\u0103 minunat c\u00e2nd se va l\u0103sa de b\u0103ut”, „E at\u00e2t de tandru c\u00e2nd nu e nervos”.<\/p>\n\n\n\nDar, draga mea, poten\u021bialul nu este realitate. Tu tr\u0103ie\u0219ti cu realitatea \u00een fiecare zi. \u0218i dac\u0103 aceast\u0103 realitate \u00ee\u021bi provoac\u0103 durere, nicio fantezie despre viitor nu merit\u0103 „azi”-ul t\u0103u distrus.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
<\/span>Planul de ie\u0219ire: cum s\u0103 ai grij\u0103 de tine<\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nDac\u0103 ai recunoscut situa\u021bia ta \u00een acest text, te rog, nu intra \u00een panic\u0103. Exist\u0103 o ie\u0219ire, dar necesit\u0103 preg\u0103tire. Ie\u0219irea din rela\u021bii toxice nu este doar o desp\u0103r\u021bire, este o opera\u021biune de salvare a propriei persoane.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\nRestabile\u0219te sprijinul.<\/strong> \u00cencepe s\u0103 restabile\u0219ti contactele cu prietenii \u0219i rudele pe care i-ai fi putut \u00eendep\u0103rta. Vei avea nevoie de un „grup de sprijin”.<\/li>\n\n\n\nPerna financiar\u0103.<\/strong> Chiar \u0219i economiile minime \u00ee\u021bi vor da un sentiment de libertate. \u00cencepe s\u0103 pui deoparte bani despre care partenerul nu \u0219tie.<\/li>\n\n\n\nNu ceda provoc\u0103rilor.<\/strong> C\u00e2nd vei decide s\u0103 pleci, partenerul poate deveni brusc „ideal” (luna de miere) sau agresiv. Aminte\u0219te-\u021bi de scopul t\u0103u.<\/li>\n\n\n\nAdreseaz\u0103-te unui specialist.<\/strong> Psihologul te va ajuta s\u0103 nu te \u00eentorci, deoarece rela\u021biile toxice provoac\u0103 o dependen\u021b\u0103 emo\u021bional\u0103 puternic\u0103, similar\u0103 cu cea de droguri.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n<\/span>Via\u021ba de dup\u0103: \u00eentoarcerea la sine<\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\nDup\u0103 ie\u0219irea din rela\u021bii dificile poate p\u0103rea c\u0103 \u00een interior este p\u0103m\u00e2nt p\u00e2rjolit. Este normal. D\u0103-\u021bi timp. Nu te arunca \u00een noi romane pentru a \u00een\u0103bu\u0219i durerea. \u00cenva\u021b\u0103 s\u0103-\u021bi auzi din nou dorin\u021bele: ce \u00ee\u021bi place s\u0103 m\u0103n\u00e2nci la micul dejun? Ce muzic\u0103 s\u0103 ascul\u021bi? Unde s\u0103 mergi la plimbare?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u021aine minte: singur\u0103tatea nu este o sentin\u021b\u0103, este timpul pentru a face cuno\u0219tin\u021b\u0103 cu cea mai important\u0103 persoan\u0103 din via\u021ba ta – cu tine \u00eens\u0103\u021bi. Meri\u021bi s\u0103 fii iubit\u0103 nu pentru comoditate sau r\u0103bdare, ci pur \u0219i simplu pentru c\u0103 e\u0219ti. Meri\u021bi siguran\u021b\u0103. Meri\u021bi respect. \u0218i eu cred c\u0103 vei g\u0103si \u00een tine puterea de a te alege pe tine.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
V\u0103 \u00eembr\u0103\u021bi\u0219ez cu inima. A voastr\u0103 Maria.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Bun\u0103, dragile mele. Ast\u0103zi vreau s\u0103 abordez o tem\u0103 care r\u0103m\u00e2ne adesea \u00een spatele u\u0219ilor \u00eenchise ale dormitoarelor noastre \u0219i, cel mai r\u0103u, ale inimilor noastre. Am crescut cu to\u021bii cu basme \u00een care dragostea \u00eenvinge totul, iar r\u0103bdarea este r\u0103spl\u0103tit\u0103. Ni s-a spus c\u0103 rela\u021biile sunt o munc\u0103 grea, c\u0103 trebuie s\u0103 \u0219tii s\u0103 […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":9,"featured_media":14159,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"ehnl_send_newsletter":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[806],"tags":[5914,7562,7566,6194,7563,7568,7565,7567,6750,7564],"moimportance":[],"class_list":["post-14167","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationships-in-couple-ro","tag-abuz-emotional","tag-cand-sa-pui-capat-relatiei","tag-dependenta-emotionala-2","tag-manipulare-psihologica","tag-partener-narcisist","tag-psihologia-relatiilor-de-cuplu","tag-relatie-toxica","tag-semne-ale-violentei-domestice","tag-sindromul-salvatorului","tag-steaguri-rosii-in-relatie"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14167","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/9"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14167"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14167\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14168,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14167\/revisions\/14168"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14159"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14167"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14167"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14167"},{"taxonomy":"moimportance","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/emoharmony.info\/ro\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/moimportance?post=14167"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}